It was September 1992. I was working at Chemeketa Community College in Salem, Oregon as the Associate Dean for Developmental Education. It was a time of change for the college as we were working on our preferable future. During an inservice presentation titled “Put Your Own Oxygen Mask On First,” I shared the following remarks:
In the past five months I have flown so much that I feel I could be a stand-in flight attendant. When people ask me where I live, I answer the United terminal at any airport.
It was a flight this past June (my fourth in three months) that provided the inspiration for my thoughts. You know the routine. You’re all strapped in, taxiing to the runway, and the flight attendant says, “This cabin is pressurized for your comfort, but in the event of an emergency, an oxygen mask will automatically appear. You all know the next line. If you are traveling with young children, put your own oxygen mask on first, and the put the mask on your children.
This got me to thinking about taking care of ourselves, particularly because as people who care about others, we tend to go around putting oxygen masks on everyone else and sometimes we forget to put on our own oxygen mask! This concerns me because if we don’t start putting on our own masks first, if we don’t start taking care of ourselves, we will become depleted.
Oxygen rejuvenates; it gives stamina. It provides the ability to go back and continue to “slay the dragons.” This is going to be a challenging year for us. Challenging because we have many needs and not enough funds to meet all those needs. Challenging because not only will we be dealing with our day-to-day operations, but also working on the college’s preferable future. It can easily feel like overload and I don’t want to see anyone get burned out this year.
It’s all the little things; all of the things that stack one by one on top of us. It’s like the saying, “You can get nibbled to death by ducks. No one takes a big bite, but all those nibbles eventually get to you.”
I don’t want us to get nibbled to our nubbins by the little things. Therefore, we need to be conscious of what gives us oxygen…what keeps up going. And, we need to make a conscious effort to pay attention to the warning signals of oxygen depletion and get that mask on in time so we don’t take oxygen deprivation out on each other — we’re all in this together. We need to work collaboratively.
So, what’s your oxygen source? What will you do this year to regain stamina, to rejuvenate?
This opening led to all of us talking about the importance of self-care. Someone on my staff offered, “You can’t draw water from an empty well.” Isn’t that the truth?! When the well is empty, we are more likely to feel stressed, react rather than respond, open ourselves to burnout, experience fatigue and even health problems, and/or not be mentally sharp.
This then led to all of us sharing our oxygen sources, things like:
MAINTAINING SIGHT OF WHY WE ARE HERE. Whether in our personal or professional lives, when whatever is going on begins to deplete our resources, we need to think about why are here to give us the boost we need.
CONNECTING AND SHARING MORE WITH THOSE AROUND US. We need to avoid the sense of being in ‘this’ alone. Stay in touch with friends, family, and colleagues. Share what is going on.
MAINTAINING BALANCE IN OUR LIVES. We need to equalize who we are and what we do; align what we must do with what we want to do or enjoy doing.
TAKING CARE OF ALL ASPECTS OF OURSELVES (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual…) by applying healthy habits to our daily lives: create daily routines, find ways to relax, minimize bad stress, relieve tension, and carve out some “me time” (time to renew) each day.
SETTING PRIORITIES. Align what we do with our values then prioritize what we do in line with those values. Establish boundaries and limits.
AVOIDING OVER SCHEDULING and OVER COMMITTING. Think beyond the day that dawns. Look to the week, even to the month and plan ahead. Prepare to do lists.
BEING FLEXIBLE. Maintain perspective. When stuff happens, roll with it.
SIMPLIFYING. Drop activities that sap our time or energy. Minimize time spent on activities that don’t enhance work, family, health, friends, or spirit or that don’t bring happiness or satisfaction.
MAINTAINING A POSITIVE ATTITUDE as it brings optimism into our lives and makes it easier to avoid worrying and negative thinking. We are able to cope more easily with the daily affairs of life.
KEEPING OUR GIGGLE GOING. Smile often and laugh enough more.
No matter how busy or chaotic our lives get, we must remember to put on our own oxygen masks first so we are able to help others.
When our “tanks are full” we are in a better position to deal with everything going on with us and around us. In the coming days and weeks, let’s do all we can to ensure that the “well is full” so we can continue to move forth with our lives in a way that allows us to do what we need to do for ourselves and for others. Each day ask, “Did I make use of at least one ‘oxygen source’ today?” Doing so will help ensure that our “wells remain full.”