While walking through a retail store, I noticed a t-shirt whose message was “spread good vibes.” What is it this message is actually asking us to spread? Yourdictionary.com defines vibes as emotional signals people gives out to those around them with their body language and social interactions. Good vibes would then be signals that are enjoyable, pleasant, pleasurable, delightful, good, nice, fantastic (you can add other positive words to the list). Someone spreading good vibes would most likely have a smile on their face, a pleasant disposition, and tend to see the positive in everything and everyone.
In an article titled “Good Vibes Only – What Does It Mean?” posted on the Bon Vita website, author Vex King tells us, “Most understand vibes as feelings, or primarily energy, and those who understand it a little deeper will link it to vibration, as everything around us is made up of vibrating energy. We are all transmitters and receivers of vibrational frequencies. The vibrations we put out are ALWAYS pulling in stuff that’s vibrating at a similar frequency to us. Negative emotions vibrate at a lower pitch, while positive feelings such as joy and appreciation vibrate at the highest pitch of all. Whatever frequency we emit, the same or similar frequency is drawn to us. If you send out good vibes to the Universe – say for example, feelings of joy, then the Universe will give you back more things to feel joyful about.”
What signals do you emit? The chart below represents the Abraham-Hicks Emotional Scale. Use it to determine what vibes you most frequently emit. How about those around you? What vibes emanate from them? Obviously, if you or those around you tend to radiate good vibes then it is easier to deal with whatever comes your way (especially unwanted or unexpected change). Why is this you ask? Well, when we tend to focus on the positive (refer to the top three levels in the chart) it is easier to find the message, the good, the lesson within whatever we are facing. We don’t look for excuses as to why something happened. We don’t blame. We don’t do the “oh, woe is me” routine. Conversely, those who emanate negative vibes seem to wallow in the grief, fear, or anger (refer to the bottom three levels on the chart). Commonly heard might be: This is X’s fault. Why did this happen to me? Not again!
Notice on the chart that the positive vibes/feelings/emotions are at the top which gives them a higher status and more power, more energy. Those at the bottom, the more negative vibes/feelings/emotions are given a lower status and weaker energy. As Vex King said in the quote in the second paragraph, “If you send out good vibes to the Universe – say for example, feelings of joy, then the Universe will give you back more things to feel joyful about.” This works because the higher we are on the chart, the stronger our energy/power to get or make happen what we want. Likewise, the lower we are on the chart the weaker our energy/power to make happen what we want which can lead to getting stuff we don’t welcome or want.
So, let’s focus on some things we can do to remain positive so we can spread and receive good vibes. ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR STARTING POINT ON THE EMOTIONAL SCALE CHART. Don’t freak out if your starting point is on one of the lower levels. That is OK. It just means that you will have to work a little longer to reach a state of positiveness. There may be solid reasons why you are on one of the lower levels. Review what happened or is happening to make you feel the way you do. Give yourself permission to feel the emotion or to project the blame. Allow yourself to slowly get rid of the negative emotion/energy. Begin to work your way up the chart. If your starting point is on one of the upper levels, wonderful. Continue to do whatever you are doing to remain there.
VISIT WITH YOUR INNER CHILD. Our inner child is the part of us that takes us back to a time when: we were free spirits; our imaginations would run wild; we were creative beyond reason; our days were filled with laugher, fun, joy, and play; we were wildly happy about anything and everything; when cardboard boxes became houses, cars, airplanes or caves; curiosity drove a lot of what we did; we weren’t afraid to take a risk or make a mistake; we bounced back from any type of daily disruption; we lived in the moment.
LIVE IN THE MOMENT. Be present now. Let the past go for a moment and don’t think about the future for a moment. Get into what is happening here and now.
MEDITATE. Meditation is a practice of concentrated focus (usually upon a sound, object, visualization, the breath, or movement) designed to increase awareness of the present moment as well as reduce stress, promote relaxation, and enrich personal and spiritual growth. People who meditate are more likely to be filled with positive emotions such as joy, peace, and happiness.
ACCENTUATE THE POSITIVE; ELIMINATE THE NEGATIVE. Do your best to start each day on a positive note. Tell yourself that this is going to be a great day! Take everything in stride. Look for the positive in all that is going on. Smile. Laugh. Try to eliminate as many negatives from thoughts, words, and actions as possible. Try banning words such as no, I don’t like, I can’t, but…
AVOID DRAMA QUEENS AND ENERGY VAMPIRES. If you want to be more positive, you need to surround yourself with people who brighten your day. Those that are negative or those that make “mountains out of mole hills” will just drain you. The more positive energy around you, the more relaxed and easy going you’ll be. As Gandhi said, “Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.”
FOCUS ON WHAT IS TRULY IMPORTANT. Make a list of all the things that are most meaningful, most important to you. Begin to let go of “stuff” in your life that doesn’t make the list; this is the “stuff” that interferes with you being positive.
GET YOUR GIGGLE GOING. There are many physical and mental health benefits as well as social benefits to laughing. Among other things, laughter decreases loneliness, anger, and depression, all things that get in the way of being positive. Laughter adds joy and zest to life, relieves stress, improves mood, and enhances resilience. All of these are factors in being more positive.
CONNECT WITH TOUCHSTONES. Friends and family are a good source of emotional boosts which can help you maintain good vibes. So, stay in contact in whatever way works for you – phone, text, email, Facebook or other social media sites, personal visits.
VOLUNTEER. Volunteering your time and talents is a great way to make you feel good about yourself. Volunteering connects you to others, giving you the opportunity to make new friends and increase your social skills. Spending time helping people is good for your body, mind, and soul.
Since we attract the energy we give off, for us to truly enjoy life we need to think positively and do our part to spread good vibes. The late Yogi Bhajan ( a yogi, spiritual teacher, and entrepreneur) said, “May yourself so happy so that when others look at you they become happy too.” Let this be our goal for the coming week. Let’s make ourselves so happy, so good at spreading good vibes that those whom we encounter “catch” those vibes and happiness. Let’s all do our part in our small section of the world to spread as many good vibes as possible.